Shut Down Your Inner Complainer

Complaining is a common habit – one that is not easy to stop because it becomes a regular part of your daily life. If you feel that you complain too often, especially about the small stuff, it is time to start working toward keeping some of those complaints to yourself.

Thankfully, there are many things that you can start doing right now that will help you to complain less, and enjoy the beauty of life more.

Change Your Thought Process

The first step in reducing your complaining is to start to think positively. You need to focus on the good parts of life and start looking for the silver lining in all of the situations that you find yourself in. Life will never be perfect and there will always be negative situations. However, when you work to embrace a positive attitude, you will see that even when a situation is not great, you can still learn from it, and learning is always positive.

Work toward adaptation

Being able to adapt to different environments and situations is important because it reduces stress and helps you to focus on the positive. Nothing ever stays the same in life and changes are inevitable. It is important to embrace this fact and make note that while you often cannot control change, you can control how you react to the changes that are going on in your life.

When you are going through changes, look at them as personal challenges full of opportunity instead of untenable obstacles.

Be mindful

You cannot change the past and you cannot control the future, so it is never a good thing to complain about either of these. Focus on the present and on the things in your life that you are able to control. Give your negative thoughts a positive spin, and keep your eye on your upcoming goals so that there is no room for the negative in your mind.

Be assertive

When it comes to being in control of your life, assertiveness is important. If you are a doormat, you will find a lot to complain about. However, when you are assertive and in control, you have the confidence to tackle even the most difficult situations without the need to complain.

Move forward

Headshot pissed off, angry, grumpy, young womanWhen someone unfavorable happens, remember that this too shall pass. There is no need to complain about it and dwell on it. Take away any lessons that it presents, and then move on with your life. If you get into complaining, this will prevent you from fully being able to move forward.

Start employing these tips and techniques today, and by the end of the week you are sure to notice that you are complaining less. If you have a slip up, do not dwell on this either, because it is going to happen.

Habit changes do not happen overnight so do not try to force it. You are working toward making a behavior change, so it is important that you take your time and realize that the occasional vent to the right person can be a good thing.

-The Alternative Daily


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